If dating feels exciting one minute and exhausting the next, small habits may be the reason. Sometimes it is not the big red flags that turn people off first, but the everyday behaviors that quietly ruin the vibe. From bad communication to being glued to your phone, these common dating pet peeves can make even a promising connection feel disappointing.

If you want to leave a better impression and build healthier chemistry, here are six dating pet peeves you should avoid.

1. Taking a long time to reply texts

Some people think that replying late whets the other person’s appetite, in the sense that it leaves them hanging on for more, and the feeling of gratification when you do get a reply eventually becomes even greater.

But really, what happened to common courtesy? Why play such elaborate games and act coy? Shouldn’t people reply at their earliest convenience, cut the bullshit, and say what’s on their mind? It’s hard enough finding an emotional (and physical) connection with someone — why waste time and effort waiting for the “right” time to say what you feel?

2. Going too fast and furious

That said, you may think that this is the “right” time to take your relationship to the next level, but that doesn’t mean the other person feels the same way. Be sure to test the waters before going forward. Candidness is usually appreciated, but you don’t want to blindside your date by being TOO forward.

3. Going on and on about yourself

Who wants to sit through an entire dinner with someone who has an inflated ego? It may be tempting to fill up the awkward lapses in conversation with trivia about yourself, but remember to occasionally steer the conversation towards your date and work to find a common topic so that it doesn’t end up as a monologue.

4. Being rude

Like, duh. Obviously, behaving like anything but a decent human being isn’t going to get you into anyone’s good books. If your date is a jerk to waiters or ushers or anyone apart from you, then that’s a warning sign that he’s not as nice and charming as he seems.

5. Being late

Again, common courtesy. Showing up late not only shows that you have no concept of punctuality, you also take someone else’s time for granted by making him or her wait for you. Not the best impression you want to make on a date. It’s always better to be slightly early than late — that way, you can touch up in the washroom and be prepared for your date.

6. Texting at the table

You don’t have to be fixated on your date the whole time, but some form of attention would be nice thanks. What could possibly be so important that you have to attend to it at the table while your date awkwardly eats her food? If it is an urgent work or family related matter, politely inform your date instead of spending the entirety of dinner poking away at your phone.

7. Oversharing Too Soon

Honesty is important, but there is a difference between being open and unloading too much too early. Sharing intense personal drama, relationship baggage, or deeply private issues on the first date can feel overwhelming. A strong connection takes time to build. Let the conversation unfold naturally and save heavier topics for when trust has developed.

What are some other dating pet peeves? Have you experienced bad dates before? Sound off in the comments section below!