Written by : Alicia Roxanne

A friend of mine once told me that dating is like hiring. They both share the same processes, which, if you think about it, is true.

When people apply for jobs, you screen them through their resume. If you don’t like their resume, you wouldn’t even bother to invite that person down for an interview. But maybe if that person was referred by a colleague of yours, you might be willing to reconsider your initial judgement or skip the necessary screening.

Our appearance makes up part of our resume. Our object of affection is our desired position. Our matchmaker, if any, is our colleague. And what we are doing today is strengthening our portfolio, our resume, to become more qualified for the position we are applying to.

Most guys prioritize looks over personality. Some wouldn’t even entertain the thought of getting to know someone who is not physically attractive to them. The good thing about this is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And once they fall in love with your personality, you become even more attractive in his eyes.

Girls, however, typically choose personality over looks. They fall in love with boys who can say the right thing they want to hear. The down side to this? if they met two guys who are equally attractive and one is better looking, most girls will date the one who is better looking. And this only gives you a short-term solution to who actually is better for you because looks only keep you entertained for so long!

The Philosophy of Attractive Individuals

People who are attractive can either be really good-looking or really charismatic. People who fall under both definitions of attractive know that they have options, and this gives them power in any relationship. Because to them, even if you leave, they can easily find someone else.

People who are really attractive know that they are attractive. They often receive compliments from others for their looks. However, people who think that they are attractive may also long to be recognized for something else other than their appearance. They may desire to prove that they are on the same caliber as others whom they deem as capable.

Everyone needs to be constantly reminded of their worth. And the sad truth is, physical appearance plays a significant role in shaping how others perceive themselves because of how others perceive them.

Why NOT Hot Guys?

I’ve always believe in the philosophy that the guy I date should not be physically attractive. This doesn’t mean that I am looking to settle down with someone who is “ugly” — because I there’s no such thing as an ugly person. I just think that average looking guys make better boyfriends.

To me, the only time I would consider dating a hot guy is if I am trying to make my ex-boyfriend jealous. Because guys can only win other guys in terms of looks and wealth. If your ex thinks that this guy you are dating is more handsome or richer than him, he will think that you have found someone better. This is also true for girls: when they see their ex dating someone new, their first question might be, “Is she prettier than me?”

Having a very attractive partner gives you a certain level of happiness and pride. But I personally want that happiness and pride to be his instead of mine, so he can better appreciate me as a person. Guys, unlike girls, rarely tell their friends about the ins and outs of their relationship. If you are dating someone extremely hot, his guy friends would probably tell him, “Dude, you can get someone better than her, why did you settle for her?”

However, if you are dating someone who is just average, they would probably say, “Dude, I wonder how you got her. You are so lucky.” What they say doesn’t always have to be justified, but it gives different feeling to the people who hears it.

Guys who don’t perceive themselves as an object of admiration know that the chances of being with someone as amazing as you are pretty slim, so they will work hard for you. And when they actually do get you, they will see you as their dream come true. This is you boosting their inner pride without having to say it through words.

To Give Love or To Feel Love?

You can either choose if you want to be the giver or recipient of love. You can make yourself feel special by dating someone who treats you like you’re his greatest gift, or keep chasing after the hot guys who don’t put in the effort.

So, hot guys — worth the effort?