Are you in a Situationship?

Now, you must be here for a reason? Either you’re here to know what is situationships or you’re trying to identify if you’re in one, and if you are, how to get out from situationships and turns it into relationship. No matter what it may be, today we are going to help you figure out how this modern day dating dynamic really works and how to either save yourself from it and run away as fast as you can or use it as an advantage and opportunity to gain more relationship experience!

So firstly, let us indulge ourselves into a couple of signs or tells that immediately confirms that you’re clearly in a situationship. So, what are the signs of a situationship?

No Labels!

The literal definition of a situationship is the main fact that you and your partner have not actually declared or defined what your relationship between each other actually is. Which means both of you hadn’t had the DTR talk aka “Define The Relationship”.

Out Of Convenience.

When it comes to situationships, there aren’t usually really plans that you have decided on in advance.  Which means, all your outings or so called “dates” are out of the whim. Usually this is because of the overall situation of the relationship which doesn’t make you as important or much of a priority and results in plans made last minute due to your partner accidentally having free time whether they had their plans canceled or their friends aren’t available.

Superficial

Situationships aren’t exactly that deep. So, if you’re looking for some deep emotional connection, there’s a high possibility you won’t get it from this partner of yours. They would usually rather not talk about personal things and keep it more on the surface with you and that’s pretty much about it.

Just Going

In a situationship, since nothing is really going on and there isn’t anything to look forward to due to not being in a committed relationship and since there is nothing serious going on, it will feel as though it’s just….going. With no plans ahead and trying to take things further and with no talks or conversation about what happens next, as a person who might crave more from the situationship it will definitely make you feel exhausted in a way. 

Now, let us identify what are the red flags in these already malfunctioning relationships that will surely help you truly navigate where the situationship will go.

Online Communication Only

Usually in a situationship there is more action going on online or on social media, whether they are bolder when texting you or more confident but then have no intentions on engaging in real talk in real life. This also displays a lack of effort to actually meet you in person and hang out which makes it pretty clear that they don’t want anything serious.

“Let’s Keep Things Casual”

They keep on constantly making everything feel just casual, whether you’re trying to take things a bit further they would make sure there’s a boundary between you which indicates that they might just want to keep things casual despite being more than “just friends”. This is a major red flag!

Stuck

This means there’s nothing beneficial about being in the relationship, it’s not evolving and you’re not growing by being with this person. This just shows that you might as well be fine on your own or even better then in a relationship that doesn’t help you bloom into something more. At this point you will only be wasting your precious time and we don’t want that.

Now that we know we’re now in a situationship, it’s time to figure out what to do exactly in this situation, especially since now we’re more emotionally involved in this relationship. It’s time to determine if the situationship can become something more or if it’s all just a bust.

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Honesty is The Best Policy

In crucial times like this, where you put yourself on the line for something you really want to work out, it’s best that you be honest about your feelings and start communicating your position in the situationship. Whether you want it to evolve into something more, or if you would like everything to stay the way it is. This way, you’ll be able to figure out the potential of the situationship no matter how your partner reacts.

Feel

When in a situationship, you tend to really be emotionally unavailable and honestly it will definitely mess with your mental health as you’re overwhelmed by so many uncertain feelings. In order to really know if you want something more with this person or not, you’re going to have to stop what you’re doing and let yourself feel. Ask yourself questions to truly understand what you want and what aligns with you and your boundaries. How does that person make you feel? Do you like who you are when you’re around them? Do they make you feel better or worse? How do their actions affect you? All the answers to these questions could give crystal clear answers on whether it’s a good or bad idea to keep up the relationship.

Pros & Cons

The best thing to do during emergencies is the one and only pros & cons list which will also definitely help in realizing if that person is good enough for you and deserving of your energy, and to also find out what truly lies beneath their intentions. With a list of pros and cons, not only will you be able to tell what they lack more, but also what kind of person they are. Patterns of behaviors may arise and you will soon catch on to them and realize you don’t fancy them as much for it.

Now that you’re all caught up with all the tips and tricks of getting your way around all these situationships, you’re armed and ready for anything! Don’t forget to implement these tips whenever you feel off about a relationship you have with someone. It’s never a waste to identify the signs of a situationship earlier on to prepare yourselves so you dont have to go back to your dating app era. Make sure to always have your own back and to always protect yourself and your energy from unwanted auras.

Have you ever got into a situationship? Tell us about it in the comments below!