Written by Alicia Roxanne

People engage in a relationship with two end goals: to settle down or to have fun. And then there are two types of people who want to have fun.

First, those who date casually. They like someone enough to want to see them, spend time with them, talk to them, and have sex with them — but they don’t really know how long that feeling will last. They are usually not committed to one person exclusively as they want nothing more than a fun companionship.

Second, friends with benefits. This group of people communicate differently, more physically than emotionally. They spend most of their time with their partner having sex, usually when both of them are lonely. You are just looking to fulfill their sexual desires without carrying the burden of commitment or putting in the effort a relationship requires.

In the movie No Strings Attached (2011), Aston Kutcher and Natalie Portman showed us that a real and beautiful relationship may not always be serious at the start. But is this really true in real life? Can you really date someone who started out as your fling? Can a guy really see the girl he is sleeping with as a long-term partner when he entered the arrangement with, well, no strings attached? We asked a few men to find out what they think!

Maybe. You never know, because people, feelings, and circumstances might change. For me, it really comes down to the people and circumstances. If you just date or have a fling with someone because you think they are that kind of person, that impression will stay like that forever. But if your action is a reflection of your inability to commit, then there is greater chance that it can grow into something more serious. — LJ, 30

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Nope, not at all. Because the probability of a guy changing his mindset is like, 10 percent? I’m not saying that it is impossible; it’s just going to be really hard. — Joshua, 27

I don’t think so. I really don’t think people who started their relationship into fling can evolve into something more serious. Guys, in general, tend to treasure things that are difficult to get. — Danny, 25

Yes, definitely. I think there is a possibility. People can definitely get more attractive once you get to know them. In some point, you might come to know the person more than you intended to. She might have hidden personality, turn out to be very mature, knows how to cook or play the guitar, and those qualities can make you think, “Gosh, she is actually wife material.” So your expectation of her can change. — Aaron, 26

Maybe. There’s probably some degree of attraction in the first place for both parties to agree to that arrangement. Whether it works out, it’s like how every relationship works out. If the two are meant to end up together, they probably will stick together. I know it’s cheesy, but if it’s meant to be it will be. If it isn’t, it wont. — Ervyn, 27

It’s really subjective. Some guys will just continue as a fling for as long as they derive joy out of it. — Daniel, 29

Yes, for sure. I think it can develop into something more. But it all comes down to the attitude of the guy. The chances of it growing into something more serious is if the guy is in it not only for fun. But it definitely depends on the intent of both parties too. Perhaps if one shows interest, who knows? — Bill, 28

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